R E L A T I O N S H I P S
It dawned on me the other day the importance of community. The importance of accountability. If you are like me and most people, I love being around people, but we forget the ultimate reason why. In Genesis 1 we see God creating the heavens and the earth, then following that in Genesis 2:4-25 we see God creating man and women. We have to understand that it is not okay for man to be alone. God even understood that not just after he created Adam, but before. We are all made for community. We see God himself lives in community. God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
God didn't create us to be a science experiment, but our lives with purpose, not just man, but women also. He desires relationship with us, so when we separated ourselves from God it affected our relationship, but it made it more of a need for us to seek after a relationship with him.
If a relationship does not bring you closer to God, then drop it or do not be as involved in it.
1) If you are seeking to be with a life partner, a man and a women are choosing to live in community daily with their spouse. Your spouse is to encourage you to grow to be more like the Lord, not bring you down. If they are not raising you up and keeping you accountable then the relationship is meaningless. You may have spent time with them and just have come to know Christ, but the best thing for you in your walk with the Lord is to walk away from this relationship, it will not be easy, but it is the best thing for you. Missionary dating is not the best dating.
2) Friendships - I was talking to someone the other day about cutting a tie with some friends that encouraged her to live in the past that she no longer wanted to be a part of. I stated that it is like encouraging an alcoholic who is trying to step away from alcohol, but still hanging out with the enablers. Now this does not mean you have to cut all ties. It depends on the situation because all are different, but if you are not growing in your walk with the Lord, then you should evaluate you are devoting most of your time to.
Community builds you
1) We need to understand the importance of growth and encouragement. Our relationship with God is the utmost importance. I personally notice a difference if I am not living in community. I notice that I begin to feel down and less motivated. I am thankful for friends who are there and who encourage me Even when I feel very week I am encouraged, and I can go higher than I feel.
His word talks about our lives how we should not live unequally yoked. This can cause problems for the future even if you both agree upon letting your differences be differences. The issue arises with how will you raise your children? Do you want to confuse them. I know for myself I was confused. In the end I made my decision, but Proverbs discusses that we should lead our children, not confuse them, we may mess up on the way because we are not perfect, but we want our futures to be bright not confusing.
You do not have to have your relationships figured out now. I know that as I attend a Christian College I heard that if I do not graduate married or engaged that I failed. This is beyond far from the truth. If you left with your degree, and relationships that will encourage you and build you the friendships that will last that is worth more than a failed relationship or marriage.
Let the Lord guide you on your journey. Let him work with your heart so that way you are full and not striving to allow another person fill the place he should be filling. This goes for both friendships and intimate relationships.