Betrayal Is Satan's Playground
Betrayal is powerful. Betrayal is intimate. Betrayal is an inside job. You can't be betrayed by someone you don't have a personal relationship with. That is why it cuts so deep. Betrayal is perpetrated by someone you have trusted, generally by someone you would have NEVER thought would betray you.
"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies"
The pain from betrayal spreads like a disease in your bloodstream. It travels silently, quietly affecting each organ, often undiagnosed as the root cause. We may not even be aware that there is a disease process running rampant, untreated, thru our body until we see numerous, undeniable symptoms. We certainly don't realize that we might be contagious. One day, we recognize that the physical symptoms are negatively impacting us and that they need to be treated. Only then do we seek answers...to relieve our own discomfort. The same is true for betrayal.
Betrayal is how Satan loves to do his work. As Christians, our foundation is built on LOVE (Matthew 22:37-40, 1 John 4:16 ), TRUST (Proverbs 3:5-6, 2 Corinthians 5:7 ) and FORGIVENESS (Acts 2:38, Ephesians 4:31-32, Matthew 6:14-15), and betrayal is the opposite of our foundation. That is why Satan is so successful in using betrayal to chip away at our foundation. Forgiveness is often a deal breaker for us in relationships. We don't want to forgive. Satan preys on that and exploits it. He wants to take us away from God just as badly as God wants us to come to Him. There is a real battle for your soul going on. Bitterness, anger, unforgiveness and betrayal are Satan’s favorite tools. Why? Because they cause us to betray God. Wait...what?!? On the simplest, most basic level, betrayal can be loosely defined as doing something that harms a relationship or breaks an agreement. When we hold on to the betrayal and stay bitter, not forgiving, we distance ourselves from God. Nothing that any human could ever do to betray you is worth jeopardizing your relationship with God.
When we choose to stay angry and not forgive others, we are not able to receive His forgiveness. We are breaking an agreement that we made when we accepted Jesus as our savior. By accepting that Jesus paid the ultimate sacrifice for our sins, for our betrayals, we entered into a covenant with God that we would forgive others for their betrayals. Breaking that agreement directly impacts the relationship. As humans, when we are betrayed, we tend to hold on to that grudge. We love to use the but button. But he… But she… But I….All those “but blah blah blah” is just us justifying our behavior. We justify why it’s ok to gossip about the person who betrayed us. We justify why we want to leave the church. We justify why we don’t have to love them anymore. God isn’t human though, so He doesn’t act like we do when we are betrayed. He keeps His arms open to us and invites us to sit at the table with Him for dinner. Isn’t that also what He calls us to do? I’m not saying we have to invite them over for dinner, but we need to forgive. When we rely on God to help us forgive others, we are able to glorify Him in the process. Our stories aren’t just written for us to learn from on Earth, they are written so that we can testify and shout out about all the good He has done so that someone will come to know Him through our experiences. Don’t throw that opportunity away because you want to be right. Don’t allow unforgiveness to keep you from experiencing a deeper relationship with God. That person who betrayed you...they don’t feel the consequences of the betrayal as heavily as you do. Don’t carry their burden. Leave it at His feet.
“Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.” Unknown
When we carry the burdens that He instructed us to leave at His feet, we are not trusting in Him. If there isn’t full trust in a relationship, it is damaged. Right? So, if we aren’t trusting in the One who has never betrayed our trust, then WE are doing something to harm the relationship. Betrayal. Satan can attack our trust and faith when we hold onto our burdens. He plants seeds of doubt, unworthiness, and exploits our lack of full trust in God. This is how he chips away at our foundation of faith and trust. If we don’t lay our burdens, worries, betrayals down...if we don’t surrender ALL to God that leaves room for doubt. By allowing that doubt to creep in, we begin to lose faith in God’s promises. We doubt that God can handle it. We doubt that it is important to God. We doubt that God is fully in control. Maybe you don’t realize that is what you are saying to God, but it is.
We cannot actually, legitimately be following the greatest commandment if we are refusing to forgive betrayal. We might be pretending that God is our first love. We might even actually be deceiving ourselves into believing that we love God first. If we actually loved God first over absolutely everything, then loving our neighbor wouldn’t even be an issue. See when God is truly first in our lives, love pours out automatically. When we are full of God, the Holy Spirit is our guide and our fruits reflect that. We cannot love someone while resenting them, speaking ill of them or being bitter towards them. We cannot love someone if we are talking smack about them. So, if we don’t actually love them then, once again we are not being obedient. If we are placing conditions on our love, it isn’t really agape love.